Who Needs Toys?

Toys can vary in sizes, uses, and preferences. But don't discriminate! They may not be for everyone but they can be useful. The qualm most people have with them comes from never having used them, never having seen them used, or plain lack of information. Tools/toys can actually enhance a sexual experience if used properly. DON'T KNOCK IT TILL YOU TRY IT!

Dildo's are one of many toys that get overlooked and are deemed only for lesbian dykes. WRONG! A lot of women actually enjoy multiple stimulus so while their male or female partner is using that on them internally what's wrong with a little oral attached? They also make a great foreplay. For straight men - they don't always last as long as their female partner needs them to in order for the female to orgasm also. If they were to start with a dildo, or other internal device that can provide a similar feeling, and then finish with their own equipment there could be better pleasure for the both of them. A misconception about lesbians is why would they use dildos (or penis-looking tools/toys) when they're supposed to only like girls?The toy is NOT a penis, it's a toy; and stimulation is stimulation. Therefore, if a lesbian is to use a tool it does not mean they are bisexual or like men - it simply means they enjoy pleasure in that way. Gay men also, just because they have a penis doesn't mean they don't like toys. Giving a blow job and anal insertion may be just what your partner is looking for! There are multiple ways of cumming, just like there are multiple way to please. OH! Double-sided dildo's are also a beneficial toy. Double the pleasure, half the work!

Vibration, vibration! Whether it's a traditional vibrator, a rabbit, a clitoral stimulator, finger vibes or a cock ring - it all feels great! If you are one of the unfortunate people to have never touched one or owned one, I highly advise it. It is a wonderful addition to self pleasure as well as joint pleasure. Many people, specifically women, don't know how to make themselves cum. If you don't know, ladies, no one else will. You could encounter one of the most well-informed people ever, but it doesn't mean he or she can read minds. Learning what it feels like to cum the way you'd like to cum will ultimately lead to a better sex life. And who doesn't want that? Men should also invest, and not just in cock rings. Using a vibrator as a secondary stimulus to a regular hand job spices up the self pleasure, and also becomes something your partner can play with too! Don't overlook this toy!

Anal beads? Most people when I bring up this topic look at me with their eyes crossed. "It is an exit only region." Maybe I'm not talking to gay men enough!! Did you know that anal organs can be a way to orgasm too, especially if trying to obtain multiple pleasure? For those who can't take a dildo, a penis, or anything of that size and width I would suggest fingers or anal beads. Fingers are a great way to start off, especially if you're concerned with pain or anything, but anal beads provide a pleasure that is increasing versus steady. The balls increase in size though it is NOT necessary to take the whole strand. These are especially great for gay men that are just starting to explore themselves. They are not for everyone, sure, but they should at least be contemplated.

There are also more toys than just those that can be inserted. A blindfold is a great way to build anticipation. It can be used before or during and serves as one of the best toys around. There are all different types of blind folds too, addressing fetishes of all sorts. Perhaps you have an outfit you want to keep secret from you partner because you know it will rub him or her the right way - use a blind fold! Once it's taken off the anticipation will be at such great height it will be almost impossible to lose their attention. Handcuffs are also a great sex toy. They are available with different types of fabrics, furs, and colors! There are many ways and many places one could handcuff their partner and switch up the role of control. How about rope?! Don't be silly, this isn't typical rope. This has to be rope that is purchased in a sex shop/sex store because the material it is made with prevents rope burn. However, those who are masochists could use whatever they like - but for the rest of us I would suggest the specialized rope. Rope is also great for suspension. There are many wonderful books that teach the proper way to tie knots that allow for suspension, but one should invest in the proper things you'd need in order to suspend someone safely.

The key with all toys is safety. Make sure they're washed, sanitized, and used properly. Exploration is fantastic, but some things can cause damage...especially tying up, inserting, or binding any area that may be vital to that person's sex life (i.e. penis, balls, breasts, ass). DO YOUR RESEARCH! Although toys are not always needed to have an orgasm, they certainly help. They are not only a physical stimulator but they are also a mental stimulator. Explore your fantasies!! But most importantly do your research, do your research, do your research (did I mention research?) before you make any kind of purchase. Most toys are not returnable. If still packaged they may do an exchange for store credit, but avoiding that would be best.

Who needs toys? Anyone with an open mind. They are great for everyone, even for personal use. Who doesn't want an orgasm? No one. Unless you're A-Sexual of course...but then this blog wouldn't be for you ;c)